Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Monday, October 27, 2008
Friday, October 24, 2008
Here are some stats I gathered on this topic:
There are 9.7 million Americans living with an unmarried different-sex partner and 1.2 million American living with a same-sex partner. 11% of unmarried partners are same-sex couples.- U.S. Census Bureau, 2000
41% of American women ages 15-44 have cohabited (lived with an unmarried different-sex partner) at some point. This includes 9% of women ages 15-19, 38% of women ages 20-24, 49% of women ages 25-29, 51% of women ages 30-34, 50% of women ages 35-39, and 43% of women ages 40-44. - Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. "Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the United States." Vital Health and Statistics Series 23, Number 22, Department of Health and Human Services, 2002.
The number of unmarried couples living together increased 72% between 1990 and 2000.- U.S. Census Bureau, 2000
55% of different-sex cohabitors get married within 5 years of moving in together. 40% break up within that same time period. About 10% remain in an unmarried relationship five years or longer.- Smock, Pamela (2000). "Cohabitation in the United States." Annual Review of Sociology.
All of this information has been gathered courtesy of http://www.unmarried.org/statistics.html.
Why am I not joining the 49% of women in my age bracket who live with their partners before marriage? There are a few reasons and I am happy to share them. The first is that I relish being single. Don't get me wrong, I can not wait to marry Andrew, but in the meantime, I want to treasure nights snuggled up in my bed, face mask on and Godiva Ice Cream in tow reading trashy novels without judgement, long conversations with my girlfriends without an audience, painting my toenails while I watch "Grey's Anatomy", and all other "Secret Single" (a la Carrie Bradshaw) behavior that Andrew loathes before I make the move to move in with my boy. The next reason is because I do my best (though I do not always succeed) to follow the tenants of my religious faith. I don't mean to say that those who live with their significant others are somehow wrong, immoral or "sinners", but simply to say that this was not the right choice for me based on my personal beliefs. The final reason is pretty cut and dry. My parents are making a generous contribution to the wedding and have threatened not to if we live together; as a city school employee, suffice to say that I would have a hard time paying for the wedding of my dreams on my own...
That being said, I can understand the many reasons why people do live together before marriage (and am more than occasionally jealous of those who do). Bills are pretty expensive, especially in this economy, and it would be nice to have someone to split them with. Over half of these relationships end in marriage, but some do not; perhaps those who live together first avoid what could have potentially been disastrous marriages. That, and I can definitely understand the desire to have your loved one near. It makes perfect sense to me, and I judge not. We all have to make the choices that are right for us.
What bothers me, I guess, is how much I have been called upon to defend my beliefs on this matter. I usually just give people the last reason (about the parental wedding support) and it seems to nip the conversation in the bud. However, it would be best not to have to defend my position at all. As Rodney King once replied in a much more urgent situation, "Can't we all just get along?". After all, aren't weddings supposed to be about love?
What do you think? What did you decide about living together before marriage and why did you make that choice?
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Master (We will paint one wall the darker grey as an accent, and the other three walls a lighter grey.):
Guestroom (The light brown will be the primary color on all of the walls, the dark brown will be the trim and the cream will be for the ceiling):
How did you pick the colors for your nest? Did you start with the paint or with the linens/decorations?
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Monday, October 20, 2008
It all started this weekend when A and I started envisioning how we wanted our home to look. Since I already own a home that he will move into when we are married (more on that later). We decided to make it "ours" by furnishing it together with things we both loved. Let me tell you, finding things we both loved was a lot more easier said than done...While I love Andrew, this shopping excursion was definitely a lesson in compromise, balancing his love of contemporary style with my affection for all things classic. In the end though, it was nice to hear his opinions and to see him invest in what we are building together. Anyway, I am sure you just want to see the pictures, so here goes...
It all started with this bedroom set.... It will go in our guest bedroom(minus the tall dresser and the square mirror).
And these are the linens! I bought them right off our our registry at Crate and Barrel, because I simply could not wait!
I fell in love with these Sammy Vases...They will look perfect on the dresser and will pull all of the colors of the linens together.
Friday, October 17, 2008
While I am there, I plan to work on 2 projects:
Bride's Room and Groom's Room Signs (in our pink/brown color scheme). I hope that these will make for some fun pictures on our wedding day!
A Thank You Banner (also in our pink/brown color scheme) for us to hold; we'll have a picture like this one made into a postcard to send to our guests after the wedding. I am hoping that these postcards will make the arduous task of writing thank you cards more fun!
Thursday, October 16, 2008
The card boxes I found ranged from traditional like this one....
To bird cages like many bees are using...
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Monday, October 13, 2008
Our monogram will appear in many places, from our invitations, to our programs to our signage, to a gobo projection on the dance floor...
Gerber daisies will make an appearance in the fountain outside Lionscrest Manor, in our ceremony (and aisle) decorations, in all of the bouquets, in the centerpieces and will top the cake...
Friday, October 10, 2008
10. He is always good to his family; he has driven hours to Santa Fe in the middle of the night to visit his sister when she needed him, used vacation time to help his father build a cabin and adores is mother.
9. He is so wonderful with our dog that I know he will make a wonderful father if we decide to have a family of our own.
8. I rarely, if ever, hear him say anything negative about anyone.
7. He often surprises me with thoughtful words, actions and gifts.
6. I love the hobbies we do share (running and reading ) and the fact that we also have separate hobbies of our own.
5. He is so good to my friends...
4. And even better to me.
3. He is so handy...I swear that he can fix anything!
2. He knows all of me and loves me anyway!
1. He knows my hopes and dreams and always supports them (and has amazing hopes and dreams of his own that he allows me to support too).
I am so excited to be his wife and hope to show him every day that I love him!
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Upon exiting the reception, guests will be greeted with crates full of white chocolate chip cookies, a galvanized pail of individual Horizon Chocolate Milk, and this banner.
Any other good finds on etsy that I should know about ? :)
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Here is 1 of the styles:
I love the dresses and so do the girls! The construction is high quality, the fabric is a nice blend of dressy/casual and, best of all...the dresses have pockets! However, when I thought of these dresses next to mine, it seemed like they might need a little something...
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Monday, October 6, 2008
I thought these blue undies (from Hanky Panky) would be a fun and flirty twist on an old tradition:
I fell in love with the monogrammed dress label idea. I loved the label so much that I ordered a matching table runner and hankie for my bouquet (though the lettering for those is in pink, not blue).
Saturday, October 4, 2008
- Letters: $0.89/each
- Paint: $0.99
- Ribbon $2.99
- Stickers $3.99
What little details do you hope guests will notice about your wedding decor?
Friday, October 3, 2008
Here they are, resting atop my wedding scrapbook:) It's hard to tell, but they are magnets!
Thursday, October 2, 2008
It's hard to tell in the picture, but there is a brown border around the pink, just perfect with our wedding colors! Also, Andrew still has to drill the holes in the top for me so that I can add the ribbon to hang it at the site (from a shepard's hook).
- Wooden Sign:$9.99
- Paint $ 2.97 (.99 for each color at Hobby Lobby on sale)
- Ribbon $2.99
- Stickers $11.99
Top photo credit, Ms. Petunia from http://www.weddingbee.com/.